4 Ways To Be Kinder To Yourself

It's a new month, and I can't be the only one that wishes to fast forward to 2021. Does Adam Sandler still have that remote control from "Click"? I know that movie served as a lesson, about being present and not focusing on the future. But right now, hopes of a better future is all we have.

As more countries announced a second lockdown, I can't be the only one that feels like I am losing my mind. I am stressed about so many things, mainly financially, and I keep torturing myself with things I should have done differently. Maybe I should have saved more, maybe I should have done this, etc. 

I punish myself for things I can't change. What's done is done. 

I have realised that if I want to move forward, I need to stop being so harsh with myself. I need to take care of my mental health and focus on self-love a bit more. When you're in harmony with yourself, things tend to align for you. A few years I would have said that the law of attraction is stupid, but now I don't think so. If you're in a positive place, you will attract good things.

1. Give yourself a compliment daily
This might sound narcissistic, but it's really not. You don't have to tell yourself that you're the prettiest, the smartest, etc. Instead, think hard, and focus on small things. For instance, if I make a tasty meal, I compliment the chef, aka me. If someone else would cook a delicious meal, you'd tell them. So why not apply the same rules for yourself? 

I am a mum, which means that I juggle with lots of things, from cooking to cleaning and taking care of my baby. My husband helps of course, but he is at work almost 12 hours a day. I work hard, and I acknowledge that. We sometimes expect others to notice out hard work, but we should be the first ones to feel proud of it.

My advice is to write down everything you do at work, at home or at UNI. When you see everything written down, it's pretty impressive, right? So always compliment yourself for what you do.

2. Practice self-care regularly
Self-care is self-love. It's as easy as that. When you're taking care of yourself, you're nurturing your soul, body, and mind. So pick up a good book, listen to a motivational podcast or eat a decadent dessert. There are so many ways you can practice self-care, just think about what makes you happy.

You might like this: 10 Self-Care Ideas For Busy Moms

4 Ways to Be Kinder to Yourself

3. Surround yourself with people that make you feel good
Everyone is aware of toxic relationships, and maybe some of us have experienced them at one point. But there's another example of relationships, that aren't entirely toxic, but not positive either. I call these the "stuck relationships", although I am pretty sure there's a fancier name out there.

It might be a high-school friendship or a distant family relationship. For whatever reason, you feel that you should keep that person in your life, even if you don't have anything in common anymore. But when you're constantly talking about the past, is that good for you? Rather than holding on to the past, focus on the future.

As we grow older, we have less and less time for relationships. So we should focus on meaningful ones, that bring us joy or motivates us. Since I became a mum, my friend circle has diminished considerably. And it's not because I don't have time for others, but I want to spend time with people with similar interests. I want to be with people that get me, cause they'll understand what I am going through, and are able to offer advice. Be there for me in ways that matter.

That being said, I have only 2 mommy friends, my best friend from high school, and my sister-in-law. Not every mom is a friend, and some can be quite judgemental. I also have 2 other friends that don't want kids. I have different conversations with all of them, but I always enjoy my time with them. Now, it's less about a big friends circle and more about a close-knit group of friends.

4. Make yourself a priority 
I have started this post by saying that you should compliment yourself for your hard work. Now I`m going to tell you that it`s equally important to take breaks every now and then. Make some time for yourself. Stop saying that you`ll do something later on when you have more time or money. Invest in yourself and you`ll see the rewards.


To everyone out there struggling with the latest news, take care! Maybe take some time off social media and be with your loved ones, if you can. Make your mental health a priority and be kind to yourself and others.

1 comment

  1. Nice! Things we really do forget about when it comes to ourselves.