Why mothers should embrace slow living

I know it sounds cheesy, but motherhood changed my life completely. It made me realize that I am stronger than I thought, and it's constantly pushing my limits. More than that, motherhood made me question my priorities and my idea of a perfect life. What I deemed essential 5 years ago now seems trivial. It's not that I lost my identity after I became a mother, in reality, I found it.

One of the biggest problems we face as a society is our constant desire for more. Once we reach a goal we move on to the next one, and we forget to appreciate the small things. We're burning bright and fast, but that's no way of living. At one point, you have to stop and ask yourself what you really want in life. Not what's expected, what you truly desire.

Slow Living

When I got pregnant I had a few months of compulsive shopping, trying to create the perfect environment for my baby. I bought all these gadgets and toys, thinking that my daughter is so lucky to have all this technology available. As most of you might have guessed, it was stupid. Babies need your love and attention, that's all.

In the past months, I have started reading more about slow living, and I am trying to incorporate it in my life. A few weeks ago I wrote a post about spending more quality time with your child, and you might say that it was the spark that ignited my desire to learn more about slow living.

I love the fact that slow living makes you go back to your values, and it makes you think about how you want to live. As mothers, our family is the most important thing, yet we focus so much on financial stability. Obviously, it's important to have money to offer your family security. But in reality, we might need less than we think. 

You don't need a big mansion. Your kid doesn't need the entire Smiths toy catalogue. If that makes you happy, by all means, pursue that dream. But in most cases, we want to feel more connected to our loved ones. We want to feel loved and share that love. We don't need many material possessions in order to achieve that goal. 

Once you embrace the art of slow living, you will find happiness in the small things. Every day I have one our where the TV and phones are off, and I just play with my daughter. She's delighted to have my undivided attention. I am not saying that we don't spend enough time with our children, but sometimes that time is spent on auto-pilot. Slow living helps you stay in the moment.

Now I know what you might be thinking: this sounds great, but I have so many responsibilities. I know we have meals to cook, rooms to clean, budgets to make, etc. My best tip is to prioritise and single task. No, as a mother, multi-tasking isn't necessarily your friend.

At the end of the day, you chose how many responsibilities you can take. If you can, ask for help and involve other household members in the chores. Do a good declutter, and aim for fewer items, it will make things easier to manage. You're in charge of your time, so learn how to say NO. I am sure you've heard these suggestions many times, but start putting them in practice.

I also want to quickly address the single-task dilemma. Our society constantly pushes multitasking, and there is an abundance of advice on that matter. The problem is that when you have too many things on your mind, you start to get overwhelmed and underperform. Whilst if you focus just on one problem, you might finish it quicker and with better results. It's a bit like a domino effect, one thing leads to the other.

If you want to spend better time with your family and live in the moment, I strongly recommend giving slow living a try. Read books and articles about it, listen to podcasts. I have touched only the basics here, but hopefully, I have awakened your curiosity. It's one of those concepts that redefine your goals and takes you back to your values. It goes against the tide, giving you a calmer life, with fewer distractions. 

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